Day 64: The Entitlement Generation

Don’t ever, ever, believe anyone who tells you that you can just get by, by doing the easiest thing possible. Because there’s always somebody behind you who really wants to do what you’re doing. And they’re going to work harder than you if you’re not working hard.
— Maria Bartiromo

Crowd-funding seems to be a popular trend these days. It's a great way to seek startup capital business and fund projects. Not sure about you, but now I'm noticing the "crowd-funding" trend spill into personal territory. People (even some of my own friends) are blatantly asking for money on the social media platforms. While there's no harm in asking any question, I do find it disturbing that people are walking away from the old fashioned idea of working hard to make a living. There's a deadly trend that we Millenials, Gen Y, and now Gen Z are creating, and that's the Entitlement Generation.

To me, the Entitlement Generation are people who feel they are entitled for everything in life without working hard for it - a big house, the newest car, the latest gadgets, the latest fashion, a specific job, a higher wage, and everything else you can think of. I call this the trophy syndrome - wanting to be awarded without working for it.

I'm not okay with people who complain they have no money. "But I don't have a job." Find one. "But no one will hire me." Fight for it. "I just don't have enough money." Get a second job. Whatever the case may be, complaining gets you nowhere. DO SOMETHING.

I'm not okay with people who wait and do nothing, especially if they feel they're entitled to a specific job title or salary. It's called being lazy and apathetic. It's actually pathetic. Doing nothing produces nothing.

Lastly, I'm not okay with husbands who don't provide for their family. It's a higher cost of living these days, and often requires both spouses to work full-time jobs. While I applaud the fact that women are becoming the bread winners in their family, that is no excuse for men to sit around and let their wives do all the work. Be a man and step up.

I'm pretty passionate about this because I've lived it. I grew up thinking I was entitled to everything because I had my parent's big house with no bills to worry about. But then I moved to England when I was 25, and that's when I learned to grow up. I was newly married and no one would hire me. I was waiting around for the right job while my wife worked her butt off to provide food on the table. That broke my heart. So I fought, and fought hard, and fought relentlessly with all I had until I found a part-time job in a camera store. Then I fought harder to find a job with a higher pay. Then I fought relentlessly to make more money by shooting weddings all around England and made more money than I ever had. If you think it's hard to find a job and make a living, try doing that in a different country where no one knows who you are and capable of. Where's your excuse now?

Today, I'm doing the same thing. I fought hard to get the job I have now, and I'm fighting harder for my business to take off. My wife is the same. In fact, in less than one month, she was able to find a job in a country she's never lived in before. And it's not a money issue. It's actually a heart issue.

If you want the big house, fight for it. If you want the fancy car, fight for it. If you want a higher salary, fight for it. If you want to better way of life, fight for it. Generation X and generations  got it right. They worked hard to make a living. Go back to old fashioned values and cure yourself from the trophy syndrome.