Day 6: Balancing Marriage, a Job, and a Business

Photography by Sidney Diongzon

Photography by Sidney Diongzon

Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Balancing a full-time job and starting a business is real tough. I don't have kids yet, but I am happily married and I'd like to keep it that way. So how do I balance it all without putting a strain on my marriage and the rest of my life? Prioritize.

For me, God comes first, family second, and work third. I believe that's a healthy order that places a balanced perspective in my life. But where does my business fit in if I want it to be successful? My business must come last. Yes, it is a priority but it should not take place over your responsibilities. I'm responsible to God to live an obedient life that pleases Him. I'm responsible to my wife to honor her and provide for her. And I'm responsible to my job because it's a contractual obligation that I must honor. So what I am doing to start my business while balancing everything else? Baby steps.

Every morning I wake up an hour earlier to work a little bit on my business. During my lunch breaks I continue to work on my business and blog about my progress (yes, I'm on lunch right now!). And finally, I take one night a week to focus purely on my business. If I work on my business any more than that, I'm going to burn out. That's the key: know your limitations. Set boundaries so you don't go insane. And if you are married, I suggest you take your spouse out on a date night at least once a week. It keeps your relationship healthy and gives your mind room to breathe as you step away from the stresses of life.

Even though these are baby steps, I'm laying a solid foundation now so that my business will stand firmly on good principals later. The priorities I've set now will guide my choices later. Even if I end up making a bajillion dollars, the things that matter to me most will never be at the mercy of the things that matter least.